Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

Anger is one of the basic human emotions, even kids will show anger. We are tied with emotions and a certain amount of anger is necessary to your survival. It is a feeling of behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend yourselves when you are attacked. It is good when it becomes constructive criticism, creative differences, and heated debate can be healthy.

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Anger is a powerful emotion when you express it in a way that harms yourself or others. Because the people around you are sensitive. Anger will harm the way people see you, impair your judgment, and get in the way of success. Constant anger consumes huge amounts of mental energy, and clouds your thinking, making it harder to concentrate or enjoy life. It can also lead to stress, depression, heart disease, diabetes, a weakened immune system, and high blood pressure.

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People have three main approaches to deal with their anger, feeling expressing, suppressing, and calming. Assertively expressing your angry feelings is the healthiest way to express anger. Assertive means being respectful of yourself and others. Doing this you have to learn what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. You are allowed to express anxiety, depression, or other emotions but not to express anger. As a result, we don't learn how to handle others in anger. To get a suppressed, focus on a positive attitude this can redirect to stop thinking about your anger. Calm yourself down both your outward behavior and the internal response of your heartbeat. Anger can cause scars to your relations and friends, don’t use verbally or physically abusive. Always have a choice on how to respond to others.

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When you are feeling angry the problem will go worse and it will not fix anything. Angry people tend to demand things and translate their expectations into desires. These people use this anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn't mean the hurt goes away. Don’t try to focus on finding the solution, but rather on how to handle and face the problem. Find your trigger points, where you get angry and develop strategies to keep these triggers from tipping you over the edge. Understand the message behind the emotion based on insight and express it in a healthy way without losing control. By doing this, you can manage conflict in your life and strengthen your relationships. You can't get rid of the people, who anger you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions. Learn to handle opposing viewpoints.

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Problems and responsibilities can put weight on you. So, give yourself a break, take a tub bath or do whatever you can get rid of your anger and schedule your personal and professional time accordingly. Talk to someone whom you trust and use humor to relieve tension. It helps lighten the mood and reframe problems. Don’t punish yourself if an answer doesn't come right and you have to put serious efforts to face it. Just repeat "relax," "take it easy" by taking a deep breath.