Your heart and gut combined are your best teachers when you learn to listen. Pain teaches us if we let it. Most of the time we don’t. We mask the pain and pretend it will go away. We can’t mask the pain of the heart. The more real your pain, the more you can attend to it or get the professional help you need.
Never underestimate getting the proper medical attention including regular checkups from a qualified doctor you trust. You only get one brain and body. So you might as well show it how much you love it by taking care of it better. Your heart will thank you!
Your head can only take you so far. When it comes to decisions, how many times have you made a seemingly rational decision for your career, business or life and it ended up being the completely worst thing you could have done? You ignored your gut and went with your head. Maybe it was the money that swayed you, or something else. But you didn’t know you made a bad call until it was too late.
And while it is fine to chalk mistakes up to experience, they still hurt. Screwing up anything, losing people we love, divorcing your former business partner, surviving a major accident or illness, recovering from the darkness of addiction, depression or other mental illness causes massive pain, which can become our teacher if we let it.
Learn to be still
There is a huge benefit to learning to be quiet, still. What would happen if you found more time to work “on” yourself, your vision for your career, business and life? Instead of always working “in” your job or business, be intentional and disciplined about removing yourself from the insanity of work and life. Dedicate time on your calendar to practice several timeless and peaceful lessons like meditation, yoga and other healing arts. This will help you listen to your heart.
Finding darkness is alway a compelling time to get quiet and reflect on the lessons to be learned. You always have a part in every outcome. What is your part when things go wrong? It’s important to “listen” and learn as you go. The way I learned to listen to my heart was getting lost in utter darkness, in addition to many successes based on hard work over decades. My heart and mind continue to expand and this is by design and intention. You can’t avoid the dark, but you can learn to embrace it when it consumes you.
Be willing to keep going no matter what, opening your heart and increasing your awareness. Be grateful for all things. Make a gratitude list and go over it every day. Accept there are many things beyond your control. It is when you feel the most wounded, or angry that you can step into observer mode, detach from yourself, float away, breathe deeply and feel what is going on in your heart while you watch the scene unfold around you. Again, this takes practice, learning, maybe finding and following a new teacher.
What happens when you feel an emotional hit coming, the deep burning sensation in your gut, your temper flare? I continue to learn to get quiet, fast. I go into observer mode. I back away from the situation like a trained warrior biding time to watch his opponent.
Sometimes I leave the room, push back and breathe deeply, saying nothing, or take a walk. I stop what is taking me over the edge much better than before because I practice daily the habits I am telling you about - setting clear intentions, breathing, eating healthy, drinking tons of water, sleeping, meditating, exercising without need to compete, and and gratitude awareness. These habits replace my bad ones. I have a long way to go!
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